Last weekend, my sister told me her mother in law had died. The mother in law had been abusing pain killers and had overdosed signifigantly. She wound up being resusitated three times in a row. Then she woke up I'm not sure what was said. Before this my sister said they'd have an intervention. I"m not sure what the events were up to this point, but was "her old self" after waking and was transfered to hospice. She then died in her sleep. The title of this thread relates tho the situation in that there are other ways to deal with whatever you might think is a good reason to commit suicide over. In fact there is nothing good about it. My sister would complain bitterly about the mother in law. Our mother, the one I share with my siblings, is the same age but has had severe dementia since retiring at 65. Both women were to be 74 this year, the mother in law older than my mom by six months. The tricky part is the dementia. It's a disease that affects the brain, causing progressive brain damage and memory loss. So far mom can remember us on sight but might not remember our names. The only noun she can remember is "the pill" and this a bitter irony as the other grandmother to my nieces and nephews abused her own pills. We took mom to the zoo Tuesday of last week. We saw a lot of animals that were interesting but I'm not sure how much she can remember or would retain later from the event. Her care is very expensive, in the 5k range per month. It matters not how much pain you are feeling, or how unbearable you think your situation is. You only live once and you have to be considerate of those who love you. I know at times families can cause one member of the group to feel as an outsider. The woman who died I considered a friend. We just talked at holidays and she wouldn't judge me.